My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Georgia.
My fiance seems to have some concerns regarding the likelihood of him getting fulltime custody of his 6-year old. Married for six years. She came into the relationship with 2 children. He ultimately legally adopted them. They have one biological child together, who is 6. His daughter is repeating kindergarten, and at my urging he had her tested by the school, and they determined she has an auditory processing disorder and language disorder. Mom did not bother showing up to diagnosis and IEP development meeting with school.
I have been witness and victim to her wrath. She left and now lives with new man; however, the expectation seemed to be that my fiance should continue to be the floormat that he was for many years. She expected child support, health benefits, clothes, shoes, medical expenses, and random other money requests. Quite obviously, I posed a threat to that, but I quickly put a stop to that. Once she saw that things would change, she began encouraging the two older children to be disrespectful to me and to him. They have called him and told him how much they hated him and how they will punch him when they see him. I have been ignored, punched, and spit on. Blocking his visitation until she could vet me herself even though she has been living with her boyfriend for over 8 months and has not ever introduced him or told my fiance about him; she has actually told the kids NOT to tell him anything. The 6 year old has shared with me that her mom knows where my apartment is and she told her she was going to beat me up. Ultimately, the two older ones do not want to come over anymore because the dad and I have rules regarding respect for adults and each other in the house and also they feel like they need to hate us because their mom does. She's called on at least three occassions saying she had a job and would need him to keep them essentially 6 days a week(he is every other weekend now). He said that he was willing to keep them 5 days out of the week including the weekend visits that are his, but he would not be able to commit to every Friday. She got mad and just said forget it. However, every time she was supposed to be working we would see her around town. In fact, the mother asked for the maximum child support amount as long as she covers medical. Well, Medicaid dropped the daughter at the beginning of the year. Fiance just put her back on his plan especially in light of her disorder. When they were married, he entrusted her to take her to speech appointments in another state apparently while he was in school for the military. He said his ex told him they told her she was perfectly fine and didn't need the help. I urged him to call the speech center because his daughter does not show any signs of any speech help or not having a delay. The center stated that she only attended one appointment and refused further treatment. This was over three years ago.
I just wanted to provide some background information on that. Now let's come to the current issue: After the diagnosis, my fiance has been beating himself up and feeling like he has failed his biological daughter for not taking a more hands on approach and trusting his ex when they were married. He has been calling a lot of doctors and has secured her some appointments to see a speech pathologist. The mom's boyfriend has been doing the pick ups and drop offs lately. Her drama has decreased significantly. Then, the oldest child came over one weekend and left her e-mail up. Mom is in basic training!! The same mom that couldn't keep a job longer than two months since the divorce and didn't work at all during the marriage. The same mom that has told many people that her father molested her has left for military basic training and left her three children with a boyfriend of less than two years.
He asked the boyfriend if he could keep her for a couple of weeks while we tried to schedule appointments and other sessions. She has been over here with us(I moved in a few weeks ago), and she has not asked about her mom and keeps telling me that she wants to stay with her dad. She has also stated that her siblings tell her she is dumb and can't speak English. She barely knows her sight words even though her disorder limits her ability to remember things like you or I could. My fiance now has her on a wait list for therapy, and he wants to look at putting her in a speech school. She even came to me the other day and said, "I love my daddy." and I said "Why?" and she is like "because he helps me with sight words." Now the mom's boyfriend is asking how long is he planning to keep her, and my fiance is pissed because he just found out about the mom being in basic training about a week or so now, and he does not want his daughter staying alone with this man. However, he is not the custodial parent, he is noncustodial. He does not feel obliged at this point to report what he plans to do with his daughter to the boyfriend. He explained to the boyfriend about his daughter's disorder, and the boyfriend said "Well, you schedule the appointments. We will take her". My fiance is not leaving anything to his ex or her boyfriend; he wants a full hands on experience with helping her. She is currently seeing a school speech pathologist, but he thinks external therapy and putting her in a school where people can truly dedicate their time and resources to children like her would be the best...something the mom is NOT going to do. If it's not drama filled enough, she doesn't want any parts.
He plans to see a laywer this week. However, what are his chances getting full custody of this daughter? Does he have any legal recourse right now with the mom being in basic and his not wanting his daughter to go back and live with another man, who is not a guardian or custodial parent?
My fiance seems to have some concerns regarding the likelihood of him getting fulltime custody of his 6-year old. Married for six years. She came into the relationship with 2 children. He ultimately legally adopted them. They have one biological child together, who is 6. His daughter is repeating kindergarten, and at my urging he had her tested by the school, and they determined she has an auditory processing disorder and language disorder. Mom did not bother showing up to diagnosis and IEP development meeting with school.
I have been witness and victim to her wrath. She left and now lives with new man; however, the expectation seemed to be that my fiance should continue to be the floormat that he was for many years. She expected child support, health benefits, clothes, shoes, medical expenses, and random other money requests. Quite obviously, I posed a threat to that, but I quickly put a stop to that. Once she saw that things would change, she began encouraging the two older children to be disrespectful to me and to him. They have called him and told him how much they hated him and how they will punch him when they see him. I have been ignored, punched, and spit on. Blocking his visitation until she could vet me herself even though she has been living with her boyfriend for over 8 months and has not ever introduced him or told my fiance about him; she has actually told the kids NOT to tell him anything. The 6 year old has shared with me that her mom knows where my apartment is and she told her she was going to beat me up. Ultimately, the two older ones do not want to come over anymore because the dad and I have rules regarding respect for adults and each other in the house and also they feel like they need to hate us because their mom does. She's called on at least three occassions saying she had a job and would need him to keep them essentially 6 days a week(he is every other weekend now). He said that he was willing to keep them 5 days out of the week including the weekend visits that are his, but he would not be able to commit to every Friday. She got mad and just said forget it. However, every time she was supposed to be working we would see her around town. In fact, the mother asked for the maximum child support amount as long as she covers medical. Well, Medicaid dropped the daughter at the beginning of the year. Fiance just put her back on his plan especially in light of her disorder. When they were married, he entrusted her to take her to speech appointments in another state apparently while he was in school for the military. He said his ex told him they told her she was perfectly fine and didn't need the help. I urged him to call the speech center because his daughter does not show any signs of any speech help or not having a delay. The center stated that she only attended one appointment and refused further treatment. This was over three years ago.
I just wanted to provide some background information on that. Now let's come to the current issue: After the diagnosis, my fiance has been beating himself up and feeling like he has failed his biological daughter for not taking a more hands on approach and trusting his ex when they were married. He has been calling a lot of doctors and has secured her some appointments to see a speech pathologist. The mom's boyfriend has been doing the pick ups and drop offs lately. Her drama has decreased significantly. Then, the oldest child came over one weekend and left her e-mail up. Mom is in basic training!! The same mom that couldn't keep a job longer than two months since the divorce and didn't work at all during the marriage. The same mom that has told many people that her father molested her has left for military basic training and left her three children with a boyfriend of less than two years.
He asked the boyfriend if he could keep her for a couple of weeks while we tried to schedule appointments and other sessions. She has been over here with us(I moved in a few weeks ago), and she has not asked about her mom and keeps telling me that she wants to stay with her dad. She has also stated that her siblings tell her she is dumb and can't speak English. She barely knows her sight words even though her disorder limits her ability to remember things like you or I could. My fiance now has her on a wait list for therapy, and he wants to look at putting her in a speech school. She even came to me the other day and said, "I love my daddy." and I said "Why?" and she is like "because he helps me with sight words." Now the mom's boyfriend is asking how long is he planning to keep her, and my fiance is pissed because he just found out about the mom being in basic training about a week or so now, and he does not want his daughter staying alone with this man. However, he is not the custodial parent, he is noncustodial. He does not feel obliged at this point to report what he plans to do with his daughter to the boyfriend. He explained to the boyfriend about his daughter's disorder, and the boyfriend said "Well, you schedule the appointments. We will take her". My fiance is not leaving anything to his ex or her boyfriend; he wants a full hands on experience with helping her. She is currently seeing a school speech pathologist, but he thinks external therapy and putting her in a school where people can truly dedicate their time and resources to children like her would be the best...something the mom is NOT going to do. If it's not drama filled enough, she doesn't want any parts.
He plans to see a laywer this week. However, what are his chances getting full custody of this daughter? Does he have any legal recourse right now with the mom being in basic and his not wanting his daughter to go back and live with another man, who is not a guardian or custodial parent?
Custody and Visitation Issues: Chances of Getting Ft Custody for Father - Georgia
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