My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Indiana
My ex (never married if that matters) has physical custody while we share legal custody. My ex has a violent boyfriend. The judge already warned her against having our son exposed to this stuff. Some time last summer she left him. Then she went back stating she was lonely. She had mentioned just leaving our son with my mom and doing visits. She doesn't want me having custody. I know if she did that I'd actually be the one to get custody, not my mom. But she thinks she can hand custody to whoever she likes. She also thinks the court order doesn't pertain to her. She has refused to follow it. More recently she dropped my son off with me. She showed up with no notice. Then a few days later showed up again with no notice. I wasn't home so she spoke with my gf then waited outside until I got home. She said she didn't want our son being around her bfs yelling so she was leaving him with me for a while. Then the following day her bf and her came back for our son. That same day her bf and her got into yet another fight. The cops were called and a no contact order put in place. She is now staying elsewhere. She still speaks with her bf. She told me that she wants to get the no contact order taken away or whatever. Again, this was because she's lonely as she says. I told her that it is not a good place for our son and her response was that her bf is not violent and never yells or screams. I know all of that to be huge lies. He is yelling nearly everytime I see him. I know for fact he does this in front of my son. I know he gets violent in front of my son as well. I also know both of them have spoken horribly about me in front of my son too. The other day she mentioned wanting to move back in with her bf. She seriously doesn't care what or who she puts our son around, as long as she is happy. She came to get him during my parenting time one day and I refused to give him to her as it was my court ordered time. Also my son was sleeping. It was pretty late. She and her bf had 6 people in their car already and it is only supposed to fit 5. A police officer came out and asked where they planned on putting my son. He was 1 year old at the time. She didn't care how unsafe it was to try to put a baby in a car that has 0 seats available and already had too many people. I'm wondering if it is worth it to ask for her to have supervised visits to ensure my son isn't put in harms way and she doesn't badmouth me in front of him. Also, he does just fine when he comes over but my ex will drag out the goodbyes making him more and more upset. When she came over to tell me to keep him he saw her. He literally began freaking out. Like he acted like he was having a panic attack or something. He was screaming and crying and breathing really heavily. He does this anytime he sees his mom after being at my house. Like he's totally happy when he's here until you mention his mom or he sees her. Then he's freaking out. Idk what to do at this point.
ETA: she already filed for a court hearing to give me joint physical custody. However when she gets mad she says she'll tell the judge not to do it. I offered to pay for mediation to avoid court and she refused. She would rather go to court for some reason. But at this point I'm glad she did. At least I'll be able to voice my concerns to the judge.
My ex (never married if that matters) has physical custody while we share legal custody. My ex has a violent boyfriend. The judge already warned her against having our son exposed to this stuff. Some time last summer she left him. Then she went back stating she was lonely. She had mentioned just leaving our son with my mom and doing visits. She doesn't want me having custody. I know if she did that I'd actually be the one to get custody, not my mom. But she thinks she can hand custody to whoever she likes. She also thinks the court order doesn't pertain to her. She has refused to follow it. More recently she dropped my son off with me. She showed up with no notice. Then a few days later showed up again with no notice. I wasn't home so she spoke with my gf then waited outside until I got home. She said she didn't want our son being around her bfs yelling so she was leaving him with me for a while. Then the following day her bf and her came back for our son. That same day her bf and her got into yet another fight. The cops were called and a no contact order put in place. She is now staying elsewhere. She still speaks with her bf. She told me that she wants to get the no contact order taken away or whatever. Again, this was because she's lonely as she says. I told her that it is not a good place for our son and her response was that her bf is not violent and never yells or screams. I know all of that to be huge lies. He is yelling nearly everytime I see him. I know for fact he does this in front of my son. I know he gets violent in front of my son as well. I also know both of them have spoken horribly about me in front of my son too. The other day she mentioned wanting to move back in with her bf. She seriously doesn't care what or who she puts our son around, as long as she is happy. She came to get him during my parenting time one day and I refused to give him to her as it was my court ordered time. Also my son was sleeping. It was pretty late. She and her bf had 6 people in their car already and it is only supposed to fit 5. A police officer came out and asked where they planned on putting my son. He was 1 year old at the time. She didn't care how unsafe it was to try to put a baby in a car that has 0 seats available and already had too many people. I'm wondering if it is worth it to ask for her to have supervised visits to ensure my son isn't put in harms way and she doesn't badmouth me in front of him. Also, he does just fine when he comes over but my ex will drag out the goodbyes making him more and more upset. When she came over to tell me to keep him he saw her. He literally began freaking out. Like he acted like he was having a panic attack or something. He was screaming and crying and breathing really heavily. He does this anytime he sees his mom after being at my house. Like he's totally happy when he's here until you mention his mom or he sees her. Then he's freaking out. Idk what to do at this point.
ETA: she already filed for a court hearing to give me joint physical custody. However when she gets mad she says she'll tell the judge not to do it. I offered to pay for mediation to avoid court and she refused. She would rather go to court for some reason. But at this point I'm glad she did. At least I'll be able to voice my concerns to the judge.
Modification of Custody: When Should You Try to Obtain Supervised Visitation
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