My question involves a child custody case from the State of: VIRGINIA
Greetings All.
Thanks to anyone for thier feedback and advise.
A little background on the situation: I am an unwed mother of a 2 year old. My child and I have never been apart since before birth
When the child was born, child, father and mother lived in the paternal grandparents house for 8 months (Maryland). The living situation was in the basement. The room had no windows no privacy and a concret floor with a thin layer of carpet (not great for a child) During those 8 months, father of child was negligent in caring for the child. ( by that I mean, he spent almost all of his free time with his friends in the neighborhood). Although there were many conversation about his basic duties as a parent and spouse, he still chose to use most of his energy "hanging out". Mother was not getting help or eating properly so she stayed with HER mother (Virginia) on and off (for 1-2 weeks at a time) throughout the 8 months for support and nourishment.
At the end of the 8 month period the father's father (man of the house), stated that he was not comfortable with the mother being a stay-at-home mom in his house. He stated that he felt the mother was "lazy, and enjoying (herself) in (his)house while (he) was out working." He gave the mother and ultimatum -"either you put the baby in daycare and get a job or you get out of my house."
So, long story short, the mother and child went to live with the maternal grandmother. In the first 5 1/2 months the father came to visit once a week. At first he would stay for less than 24 hours but the maternal grandmother urged him to spend more time with his child. He stated that he was going to work towards getting his family back together and finding a suitable place for them to live, together. He was constantly spending HIS money on unnecessary expenses. At the end of the 5 month period he was empty handed and said either the mother and child stay at the grandmothers house or move back to the paternal grandparents basement. The mother said no. There was an argument and the father left. The mother and child did not see the father for 8 MONTHS. During this 8 month period, the father did not attempt to see his child on birthday. The father never called or asked about the child. The maternal grandmother urged the father to visit. The mother wrote many emails and texts messges suggesting visits. The father only wanted the mother to drop off the child at his parents house and did not want the mother to be there. When that was refused, the father stated that he no longer wanted to go to the maternal grandmothers house for various reason ("her house is lame", "your family is weird"). For that period the father sent very little money, moved to a location further north with his new girlfriend and never asked if the child needed anything. In 8th month the mother filed for child support. The father and mother had to go to the hiring and the mother invited the father to see the child. At first he refused (all of this is in text messages) but decided to come "to make use of the 2 hour drive." The father spend about 4 hours with the child Then did not see her again till Christmas (the mother invited the father and his family to spend time with the child) the father and his family spend about 6 hours at the maternal grandmother house and had a nice time. The child's birthday is in March. From January to March the father did not attempt to see the child, did not call or video chat. In January the mother (via text) ask the father if in the new year he would try to be a regular part of the child life. In short, the father stated he did not have time because he worked 6 days a week. The mother stated that she wanted to move to be closer to business and the father replied with "if you want to move to altlanta be my guest". Although the mother decided not to move out of state, she decided to move south in the same state to be closer to family. She also decided to travel somewhere fun for the child's birthday. When the father realized he was not going to see his child on the birthday he became angry and wrote angry text to the mother and grandmother.
That's the story! There are a few other details as to the nature of his neglect and other actions.
But basically the only time I said "no you can't see (the child)", after 12 months of asking him to be a part of the child's life, was on her birthday- not to hold the child away from the father, but to travel and do something different and new for the childs birthday. I let him know that he could see her soon after we returned from our travels but we have not heard from him since.
A few weeks later the mother received a petition to go to court for custody from the father. The mother then filed a counterclaim towards the father.
My question is: with this really being the major information about the situation, what type of chance would I have to get sole full custody and limited/supervised visitation for the father.
Thanks so much to anyone who answers... I know this was a lot to read.
Greetings All.
Thanks to anyone for thier feedback and advise.
A little background on the situation: I am an unwed mother of a 2 year old. My child and I have never been apart since before birth
When the child was born, child, father and mother lived in the paternal grandparents house for 8 months (Maryland). The living situation was in the basement. The room had no windows no privacy and a concret floor with a thin layer of carpet (not great for a child) During those 8 months, father of child was negligent in caring for the child. ( by that I mean, he spent almost all of his free time with his friends in the neighborhood). Although there were many conversation about his basic duties as a parent and spouse, he still chose to use most of his energy "hanging out". Mother was not getting help or eating properly so she stayed with HER mother (Virginia) on and off (for 1-2 weeks at a time) throughout the 8 months for support and nourishment.
At the end of the 8 month period the father's father (man of the house), stated that he was not comfortable with the mother being a stay-at-home mom in his house. He stated that he felt the mother was "lazy, and enjoying (herself) in (his)house while (he) was out working." He gave the mother and ultimatum -"either you put the baby in daycare and get a job or you get out of my house."
So, long story short, the mother and child went to live with the maternal grandmother. In the first 5 1/2 months the father came to visit once a week. At first he would stay for less than 24 hours but the maternal grandmother urged him to spend more time with his child. He stated that he was going to work towards getting his family back together and finding a suitable place for them to live, together. He was constantly spending HIS money on unnecessary expenses. At the end of the 5 month period he was empty handed and said either the mother and child stay at the grandmothers house or move back to the paternal grandparents basement. The mother said no. There was an argument and the father left. The mother and child did not see the father for 8 MONTHS. During this 8 month period, the father did not attempt to see his child on birthday. The father never called or asked about the child. The maternal grandmother urged the father to visit. The mother wrote many emails and texts messges suggesting visits. The father only wanted the mother to drop off the child at his parents house and did not want the mother to be there. When that was refused, the father stated that he no longer wanted to go to the maternal grandmothers house for various reason ("her house is lame", "your family is weird"). For that period the father sent very little money, moved to a location further north with his new girlfriend and never asked if the child needed anything. In 8th month the mother filed for child support. The father and mother had to go to the hiring and the mother invited the father to see the child. At first he refused (all of this is in text messages) but decided to come "to make use of the 2 hour drive." The father spend about 4 hours with the child Then did not see her again till Christmas (the mother invited the father and his family to spend time with the child) the father and his family spend about 6 hours at the maternal grandmother house and had a nice time. The child's birthday is in March. From January to March the father did not attempt to see the child, did not call or video chat. In January the mother (via text) ask the father if in the new year he would try to be a regular part of the child life. In short, the father stated he did not have time because he worked 6 days a week. The mother stated that she wanted to move to be closer to business and the father replied with "if you want to move to altlanta be my guest". Although the mother decided not to move out of state, she decided to move south in the same state to be closer to family. She also decided to travel somewhere fun for the child's birthday. When the father realized he was not going to see his child on the birthday he became angry and wrote angry text to the mother and grandmother.
That's the story! There are a few other details as to the nature of his neglect and other actions.
But basically the only time I said "no you can't see (the child)", after 12 months of asking him to be a part of the child's life, was on her birthday- not to hold the child away from the father, but to travel and do something different and new for the childs birthday. I let him know that he could see her soon after we returned from our travels but we have not heard from him since.
A few weeks later the mother received a petition to go to court for custody from the father. The mother then filed a counterclaim towards the father.
My question is: with this really being the major information about the situation, what type of chance would I have to get sole full custody and limited/supervised visitation for the father.
Thanks so much to anyone who answers... I know this was a lot to read.
Custody and Visitation Issues: Neglectful Father Summons Mother to Court for Custody
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