My question involves a child custody case from the State of: AL
I’ve been married to my husband for 20 years. We got married right out of high school and had 3 boys together. Our oldest is living on his own because he’s 20, but our 10 and 12 year old boys live with us in AL. He took a job here in Jan and moved here in Geb while I stayed with our boys in FL until the school semesters were over. We moved here at the end of July. A month later I found out that he had been cheating on me for months. Basically the whole time he was living here and we were in FL.
At this point we have been here 3 months. I offered to forgive him and try him to keep our family together. My kids had only started school in a new place just a couple of weeks before I found out what he had been doing. It was heartbreaking that he let me move the family here thinking we would be a family again only for him to continue seeing this other woman after we got here.
I have no family here. No friends. No support. All of our family lives in KY and my mom said we can come stay there with her. I have been a stay at home mom for the majority of our marriage only having low wage jobs a few times. I left 3 universities following him from state to state while he built his career. So I have never finished my degree and have no income. Cannot take care of myself. I’m at his mercy for funds because we have separate checking accounts now.
The only way I’ll ever be able to make it is with spousal support and child support with the help of my family in KY. I suffer from anxiety and have had to go to the Dr twice because all of this has been eating me alive and I am not well. My health is suffering. I need to get out of this toxic situation. He is not remorseful. He is mean and hateful towards me even though 3 weeks ago he was asking for my forgiveness and said the nightmare was over.
I have not seen a lawyer yet hoping everything would work out but he is not trying anymore. I have been by his side for 20 years and he doesn't care anymore. He told me last night that we should just leave today. Obviously I am scared of taking them and being forced to come back here where I have NOTHING. There have been no papers filed or arrangements set up. He has not been an involved father for the most part. He's always put his career before everyone and everything. I'm not sure what to do because he's acting like he doesn't care if we leave but I know eventually he will care and he could make things really difficult for me. Should I record what he's saying to me about leaving? I have proof of the affair from the other woman so that will not be hard to prove but I'm not even a resident technically as I have only been here for 3 months and we've had a lease for 3 months. The rest of the time he was staying with an aunt. I will need to file here in AL because KY is a no fault state and in AL I can file for divorce because of adultry.
I'm trying to protect the kids as best I can but living here with him acting how he's acting and me being pretty much sick from anxiety is not working. I'm not sure what to do!
I’ve been married to my husband for 20 years. We got married right out of high school and had 3 boys together. Our oldest is living on his own because he’s 20, but our 10 and 12 year old boys live with us in AL. He took a job here in Jan and moved here in Geb while I stayed with our boys in FL until the school semesters were over. We moved here at the end of July. A month later I found out that he had been cheating on me for months. Basically the whole time he was living here and we were in FL.
At this point we have been here 3 months. I offered to forgive him and try him to keep our family together. My kids had only started school in a new place just a couple of weeks before I found out what he had been doing. It was heartbreaking that he let me move the family here thinking we would be a family again only for him to continue seeing this other woman after we got here.
I have no family here. No friends. No support. All of our family lives in KY and my mom said we can come stay there with her. I have been a stay at home mom for the majority of our marriage only having low wage jobs a few times. I left 3 universities following him from state to state while he built his career. So I have never finished my degree and have no income. Cannot take care of myself. I’m at his mercy for funds because we have separate checking accounts now.
The only way I’ll ever be able to make it is with spousal support and child support with the help of my family in KY. I suffer from anxiety and have had to go to the Dr twice because all of this has been eating me alive and I am not well. My health is suffering. I need to get out of this toxic situation. He is not remorseful. He is mean and hateful towards me even though 3 weeks ago he was asking for my forgiveness and said the nightmare was over.
I have not seen a lawyer yet hoping everything would work out but he is not trying anymore. I have been by his side for 20 years and he doesn't care anymore. He told me last night that we should just leave today. Obviously I am scared of taking them and being forced to come back here where I have NOTHING. There have been no papers filed or arrangements set up. He has not been an involved father for the most part. He's always put his career before everyone and everything. I'm not sure what to do because he's acting like he doesn't care if we leave but I know eventually he will care and he could make things really difficult for me. Should I record what he's saying to me about leaving? I have proof of the affair from the other woman so that will not be hard to prove but I'm not even a resident technically as I have only been here for 3 months and we've had a lease for 3 months. The rest of the time he was staying with an aunt. I will need to file here in AL because KY is a no fault state and in AL I can file for divorce because of adultry.
I'm trying to protect the kids as best I can but living here with him acting how he's acting and me being pretty much sick from anxiety is not working. I'm not sure what to do!
Relocation: Husband Cheated-Need to Take My Children from Al to Ky
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