My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Michigan
My daughters father died in Feb, my daughter had a good relationship with him. He lived at his grandmas (she adopted him) and had my daughter there every other weekend. His grandma and I always had our differences. She is controlling, manipulative and narcissistic to the fullest. She ran my ex's life, especially when it came to our daughter. He was not allowed any communication with me all communication had to go through her, she would check his call logs and if found talking to me she would threaten to shut his phone off and kick him out ( he's 29 years old) .. We were split up for 4 years our daughter is turning 7. My ex's bio-mom has a horrible relationship with this lady also, When my ex was a small child he had to hide and sneak to talk to his mother and would be reprimanded if caught, even as an adult he would get yelled at and lectured for having a relationship with her. Bio-mom and I have always been friendly, she hardly got to spend time with my daughter because her mother was always in control.
Since his passing my heart has been so heavy, My heart breaks for everyone in the situation. I allowed my daughter to go to great-grandmas (she refers to herself as grandma to my daughter) after her dad passing, even after this woman "invited" me to the funeral and told me i had to come alone without my fiance, she cut my face out of pictures of my daughters birth for the picture boards, She blamed me for his death numerous times. Well, My daughter expressed to me that her grandma always cries, and lays in bed all day. That she talks to daddy and sleeps with his ashes. So, I told her what was said, and asked her not to repeat it to not break the trust with my daughter and I, but to be aware that my daughter was watching her .. She denied everything and got nasty so i stopped all contact. It has been a month since she has seen her grandma, this past month I've offered to bring her over twice to visit and she told my daughter "if you cant come and stay the night, then you cant come here"
SO then i received court documents in the mail, and I asked again if she would like to meet up at the park so that she could see my daughter for a few hours, she said yes, we met up. I didnt speak to her at all the whole time. She kept testing me and walking further and further away with my daughter until they were out of sight. my fiance went to look for them, and he got suckered into her pity party rants. She also bent down to my daughter eye level and told her "look at me, no one else, just me" "You tell Nico that grandma doesnt lay around and cry all day" My daughter remained quiet, fidgeting her fingers, Then she said " does grandma cry all day?" My daughter nervously said no.
Later in the day, when we left the park my fiance asked my daughter if she lied to him in front of grandma, she said no .. Then i butted in and said "well, you told me tht all grandma does is cry didnt you?" she said yes ... my response was well then you lied to someone so I think you should sit in your room and think about it for a little bit. Thats when she came clean and told us that her grandma MADE her lie to us.
I am so nervous for court, as she has the best attorney, and shes a master manipulator. Any advice would be helpful! Thanks in advance.
My daughters father died in Feb, my daughter had a good relationship with him. He lived at his grandmas (she adopted him) and had my daughter there every other weekend. His grandma and I always had our differences. She is controlling, manipulative and narcissistic to the fullest. She ran my ex's life, especially when it came to our daughter. He was not allowed any communication with me all communication had to go through her, she would check his call logs and if found talking to me she would threaten to shut his phone off and kick him out ( he's 29 years old) .. We were split up for 4 years our daughter is turning 7. My ex's bio-mom has a horrible relationship with this lady also, When my ex was a small child he had to hide and sneak to talk to his mother and would be reprimanded if caught, even as an adult he would get yelled at and lectured for having a relationship with her. Bio-mom and I have always been friendly, she hardly got to spend time with my daughter because her mother was always in control.
Since his passing my heart has been so heavy, My heart breaks for everyone in the situation. I allowed my daughter to go to great-grandmas (she refers to herself as grandma to my daughter) after her dad passing, even after this woman "invited" me to the funeral and told me i had to come alone without my fiance, she cut my face out of pictures of my daughters birth for the picture boards, She blamed me for his death numerous times. Well, My daughter expressed to me that her grandma always cries, and lays in bed all day. That she talks to daddy and sleeps with his ashes. So, I told her what was said, and asked her not to repeat it to not break the trust with my daughter and I, but to be aware that my daughter was watching her .. She denied everything and got nasty so i stopped all contact. It has been a month since she has seen her grandma, this past month I've offered to bring her over twice to visit and she told my daughter "if you cant come and stay the night, then you cant come here"
SO then i received court documents in the mail, and I asked again if she would like to meet up at the park so that she could see my daughter for a few hours, she said yes, we met up. I didnt speak to her at all the whole time. She kept testing me and walking further and further away with my daughter until they were out of sight. my fiance went to look for them, and he got suckered into her pity party rants. She also bent down to my daughter eye level and told her "look at me, no one else, just me" "You tell Nico that grandma doesnt lay around and cry all day" My daughter remained quiet, fidgeting her fingers, Then she said " does grandma cry all day?" My daughter nervously said no.
Later in the day, when we left the park my fiance asked my daughter if she lied to him in front of grandma, she said no .. Then i butted in and said "well, you told me tht all grandma does is cry didnt you?" she said yes ... my response was well then you lied to someone so I think you should sit in your room and think about it for a little bit. Thats when she came clean and told us that her grandma MADE her lie to us.
I am so nervous for court, as she has the best attorney, and shes a master manipulator. Any advice would be helpful! Thanks in advance.
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