My question involves restraining orders in the State of: WI
So, heads up, this is a somewhat childish situation...
A few years back, a group of friends and I befriended a girl. Immediately she weighed in that she was a heroine addict, she was suicidal, she cut herself, etc. It was exhausting to hear about it all the time and all of it was untrue and for the sake of attention. Her life thrived on conflict and turmoil. The problem was that we couldn't escape her. She showed up to all the same places we did. If you tried to ignore her, she would seek you out or blow up your phone or email with these long explanations that we were just supposed to be friends with her and accept her behaviors. There was even an instance that I was being stalked by a third party my ex hired, and when that ended, she continued with the threats and harassment in an attempt to "get closer to me."
Recently the situation got so out of hand that one of the people had to finally get a restraining order. Needless to say, there was a whole bunch of us who did our best to distance ourselves from the situation, yet she tried every way possible to reach out. We would block her number, she'd get a new one. She'd contact our friends and family members to talk to us on behalf of her. She's used a free text service called Pinger to send us messages pretending to be someone else. She would try to get people to spy on us for her. Who knows what else she tried.
After the restraining order went through, she retaliated and continued to push the issue. I've tried desperately to keep away, and for the most part she's given up on me. But I'm frustrated that those closest to me are being negatively affected by this and that it continues. I can't just go out without worrying what her next move will be or if we'll run into her and have her cause issue.
While venting to a third party, they had suggested playing her game and using the app she used to send her a message to get her to back off. I didn't really want to, but handed this person my phone and said "If you want to do it, that's fine." I don't know what was written and deleted the app right afterwards. I didn't feel good about the involvement, but didn't really care at that point.
So now this girl is going after a couple of people legally by putting restraining orders against them and blaming them for harassment... Initially I didn't think she had a case, but it appears it's gone pretty far. From what I learned, there were four anonymous phone numbers used, but only one was initiated from my phone. It's likely she continued to harass herself in an attempt to make it look like a case, but this whole issue is completely blown away. Now there's subpoenas involved, people are asked to take polygraphs, and there's a full fledged investigation. Some of the content of the texts emerged. They aren't threatening, but they aren't nice. I've admitted to one of the people receiving a restraining order what had happened.
At this point, it will be clear that I had some involvement. It sounds like this is just more or less proof that neither of the people were involved (unless there's some connection to them and the other numbers, I don't really know...), and I'm not sure they can disclose to this girl that it is associated with me. But at this point I don't know what to do. I'm absolutely unwilling to disclose who the third party is (they have enough of a past and I'm not interested in mucking this up more than necessary). I don't think this girl will come after me if she finds out the situation, plus there's enough out there that proves people need to be protected from her, but still. I don't know what to do and I feel terrible about everything. How far will this end up going?
So, heads up, this is a somewhat childish situation...
A few years back, a group of friends and I befriended a girl. Immediately she weighed in that she was a heroine addict, she was suicidal, she cut herself, etc. It was exhausting to hear about it all the time and all of it was untrue and for the sake of attention. Her life thrived on conflict and turmoil. The problem was that we couldn't escape her. She showed up to all the same places we did. If you tried to ignore her, she would seek you out or blow up your phone or email with these long explanations that we were just supposed to be friends with her and accept her behaviors. There was even an instance that I was being stalked by a third party my ex hired, and when that ended, she continued with the threats and harassment in an attempt to "get closer to me."
Recently the situation got so out of hand that one of the people had to finally get a restraining order. Needless to say, there was a whole bunch of us who did our best to distance ourselves from the situation, yet she tried every way possible to reach out. We would block her number, she'd get a new one. She'd contact our friends and family members to talk to us on behalf of her. She's used a free text service called Pinger to send us messages pretending to be someone else. She would try to get people to spy on us for her. Who knows what else she tried.
After the restraining order went through, she retaliated and continued to push the issue. I've tried desperately to keep away, and for the most part she's given up on me. But I'm frustrated that those closest to me are being negatively affected by this and that it continues. I can't just go out without worrying what her next move will be or if we'll run into her and have her cause issue.
While venting to a third party, they had suggested playing her game and using the app she used to send her a message to get her to back off. I didn't really want to, but handed this person my phone and said "If you want to do it, that's fine." I don't know what was written and deleted the app right afterwards. I didn't feel good about the involvement, but didn't really care at that point.
So now this girl is going after a couple of people legally by putting restraining orders against them and blaming them for harassment... Initially I didn't think she had a case, but it appears it's gone pretty far. From what I learned, there were four anonymous phone numbers used, but only one was initiated from my phone. It's likely she continued to harass herself in an attempt to make it look like a case, but this whole issue is completely blown away. Now there's subpoenas involved, people are asked to take polygraphs, and there's a full fledged investigation. Some of the content of the texts emerged. They aren't threatening, but they aren't nice. I've admitted to one of the people receiving a restraining order what had happened.
At this point, it will be clear that I had some involvement. It sounds like this is just more or less proof that neither of the people were involved (unless there's some connection to them and the other numbers, I don't really know...), and I'm not sure they can disclose to this girl that it is associated with me. But at this point I don't know what to do. I'm absolutely unwilling to disclose who the third party is (they have enough of a past and I'm not interested in mucking this up more than necessary). I don't think this girl will come after me if she finds out the situation, plus there's enough out there that proves people need to be protected from her, but still. I don't know what to do and I feel terrible about everything. How far will this end up going?
Establishment: Unintentional Involvement in a Restraining Order
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