My question involves a child custody case from the State of: RI
I was never married to father in question. I left him when I was 16 weeks pregnant. He was never listed on the birth certificate, but they did go after him for child support after they made him establish paternity. He has paid $230.00 a month for the past 6 years. He had never had contact with his child. I would send him photos and talk to him rarely. My child will be 7 in a week, within the last year he has spoke to his father a total of 2 times on the phone and 2 times via facetime. My child and I have lived with my boyfriend for the past year, I have been with him for almost 2 years. My son considers my boyfriend more of a dad to him, as he refers to my boyfriend as dad.
Recently, there was an FBI raid in our home. We thought it had to do with a few weapons we had recently purchased, but I later found out it involved something completely different. DCYF (department of children youth and families) stepped in and told me that my child was not allowed to live in the home with my boyfriend, and that my son was to have no contact with my boyfriend. They knew we had previously lived with my parents and she said that he has to stay there until they complete the investigation, or else THEY WOULD TAKE HIM and give him to his (sperm donor). I was completely heartbroken. I knew I would never allow that to happen. I would do anything I could to protect him and to make sure he was never taken from me. So my son and I packed some clothes and went to my mothers. I sleep in my home with my boyfriend every other night. I continue to maintain our home.
My boyfriend was never arrested, he was just taken in for "questioning". They questioned me about access to our internet, who has had access, etc. I mean, I pay the bill, I always have friends and neighbors over, and our password is on the fridge. I was answering questions truthfully, since at that point I was totally clueless as to what the investigation was even about, and why they were asking me all of those questions about my internet. Then they informed me what it was about. They had an open investigation involving child porn/child exploitation, they said they had been investigating for a while [they were not specific to how long as I kept demanding they tell me] which I don't believe for the life of me), I did not believe them for the life of me. The DCYF worker even went to my sons school and asked him if my boyfriend had every inappropriately touched him. My son said no to this lady, and the lady said that she believed him. which of course I know for a fact that, he would never hurt us and if I ever thought for a minute something was going on I would have left him.
They did take all of our weapons and electronics. They were questioning as to why we had an M-16 and a 9mm pistol (in their designated LOCKED containers) on the living room floor. We had went shooting on sunday and he had been cleaning them the night before. we had put everything back and locked the containers but we hadn't brought them back downstairs. DCYF is pretty much telling me my son was in danger. Also my son had told this DCYF lady that my boyfriend had taken him to the fields (that we go shooting in) taught him how to use it, clear it and of course the dangers of it. my son said he held it with my boyfriend behind him holding onto it and shot it. Honestly I don't know about the law in RI, but I was 7 when I shot my first deer in RI so I don't know how much the laws have changed since then. Either way I would never put my son in harms way and I have always trusted my boyfriend with him 110%. our weapons are always locked up and the keys for it are put in the wall safe that not even I have the password for. At this point I know my boyfriend needs a lawyer, even though we know without a doubt that nothing will be found in our electronics. But now I feel like I need a lawyer more than he does. I am not being naïve, as everyone has their dark pasts and what not. But I know nothing is going to turn up. We think it has something to do with his daughter. His daughters mother left the state and took her to the Carolinas, two years ago, he hasn't seen her last. a year ago they last spoke. and the mother blocked every number, does not answer any call or number she doesn't know, scans all emails. We just got an email from his daughter, saying to help her and to please get custody of her because she is scared for her life of what her mother will do next. (that's a whole other issue, I know)
Couldn't I be arrested for child endangerment? or something? What next? Should I take a loan out for a lawyer? I have never been arrested, or been in a situation even remotely close to the one I am in now. I am a mess right now. How could they just up and take my child - I mean I wouldn't allow that to happen over my dead body. I am not a criminal I have never been arrested in my life. I work my butt off 2 jobs to make sure my son does not want for anything, my boyfriend owns his own business and is amazing and helps me out all the time. He took my son to school every morning. I wake my son up at 645 to say bye, I leave at 650, he makes him breakfast, my son dresses himself brushes his teeth and my boyfriend would take him to school by 720. I have managed to keep him in catholic school to get the best education. I don't, and have never done (hard) drugs, I cant even smoke pot because I have a very bad reaction to it, (yes I have tried, and called the cops on myself, they sat there on my couch and laughed at me the whole time and with me while my "high" wore off). I hardly have time to drink, and cant handle much anyways.
What should I do. Please help. Ask me questions. anything. I know I need a lawyer, or someone, I don't have much money, are there other options.
I was never married to father in question. I left him when I was 16 weeks pregnant. He was never listed on the birth certificate, but they did go after him for child support after they made him establish paternity. He has paid $230.00 a month for the past 6 years. He had never had contact with his child. I would send him photos and talk to him rarely. My child will be 7 in a week, within the last year he has spoke to his father a total of 2 times on the phone and 2 times via facetime. My child and I have lived with my boyfriend for the past year, I have been with him for almost 2 years. My son considers my boyfriend more of a dad to him, as he refers to my boyfriend as dad.
Recently, there was an FBI raid in our home. We thought it had to do with a few weapons we had recently purchased, but I later found out it involved something completely different. DCYF (department of children youth and families) stepped in and told me that my child was not allowed to live in the home with my boyfriend, and that my son was to have no contact with my boyfriend. They knew we had previously lived with my parents and she said that he has to stay there until they complete the investigation, or else THEY WOULD TAKE HIM and give him to his (sperm donor). I was completely heartbroken. I knew I would never allow that to happen. I would do anything I could to protect him and to make sure he was never taken from me. So my son and I packed some clothes and went to my mothers. I sleep in my home with my boyfriend every other night. I continue to maintain our home.
My boyfriend was never arrested, he was just taken in for "questioning". They questioned me about access to our internet, who has had access, etc. I mean, I pay the bill, I always have friends and neighbors over, and our password is on the fridge. I was answering questions truthfully, since at that point I was totally clueless as to what the investigation was even about, and why they were asking me all of those questions about my internet. Then they informed me what it was about. They had an open investigation involving child porn/child exploitation, they said they had been investigating for a while [they were not specific to how long as I kept demanding they tell me] which I don't believe for the life of me), I did not believe them for the life of me. The DCYF worker even went to my sons school and asked him if my boyfriend had every inappropriately touched him. My son said no to this lady, and the lady said that she believed him. which of course I know for a fact that, he would never hurt us and if I ever thought for a minute something was going on I would have left him.
They did take all of our weapons and electronics. They were questioning as to why we had an M-16 and a 9mm pistol (in their designated LOCKED containers) on the living room floor. We had went shooting on sunday and he had been cleaning them the night before. we had put everything back and locked the containers but we hadn't brought them back downstairs. DCYF is pretty much telling me my son was in danger. Also my son had told this DCYF lady that my boyfriend had taken him to the fields (that we go shooting in) taught him how to use it, clear it and of course the dangers of it. my son said he held it with my boyfriend behind him holding onto it and shot it. Honestly I don't know about the law in RI, but I was 7 when I shot my first deer in RI so I don't know how much the laws have changed since then. Either way I would never put my son in harms way and I have always trusted my boyfriend with him 110%. our weapons are always locked up and the keys for it are put in the wall safe that not even I have the password for. At this point I know my boyfriend needs a lawyer, even though we know without a doubt that nothing will be found in our electronics. But now I feel like I need a lawyer more than he does. I am not being naïve, as everyone has their dark pasts and what not. But I know nothing is going to turn up. We think it has something to do with his daughter. His daughters mother left the state and took her to the Carolinas, two years ago, he hasn't seen her last. a year ago they last spoke. and the mother blocked every number, does not answer any call or number she doesn't know, scans all emails. We just got an email from his daughter, saying to help her and to please get custody of her because she is scared for her life of what her mother will do next. (that's a whole other issue, I know)
Couldn't I be arrested for child endangerment? or something? What next? Should I take a loan out for a lawyer? I have never been arrested, or been in a situation even remotely close to the one I am in now. I am a mess right now. How could they just up and take my child - I mean I wouldn't allow that to happen over my dead body. I am not a criminal I have never been arrested in my life. I work my butt off 2 jobs to make sure my son does not want for anything, my boyfriend owns his own business and is amazing and helps me out all the time. He took my son to school every morning. I wake my son up at 645 to say bye, I leave at 650, he makes him breakfast, my son dresses himself brushes his teeth and my boyfriend would take him to school by 720. I have managed to keep him in catholic school to get the best education. I don't, and have never done (hard) drugs, I cant even smoke pot because I have a very bad reaction to it, (yes I have tried, and called the cops on myself, they sat there on my couch and laughed at me the whole time and with me while my "high" wore off). I hardly have time to drink, and cant handle much anyways.
What should I do. Please help. Ask me questions. anything. I know I need a lawyer, or someone, I don't have much money, are there other options.
Child Neglect: Can You Be Charged With Child Endangerment for Having Weapons in a Locked Container
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