I don't mean to be rude, but please spare me obvious information. I have retained legal counsel, I have obeyed the courts every rule I get that I can't violate a no contact order. I'm here because my attorney is not satisfactorily answering my questions. They have become somewhat annoyed with me I think because my priorities and theirs seem to be different.
For a little background on the case, I essentially intended to elope with a 17 year old girl who initially claimed to be several years older. Part of the motivation was aspects of her home life I considered abuse and she wanted to get away from. The relationship itself was perfectly legal -I'm several years older, but she is over the age of consent. However due to crossing state lines the case is a federal matter.
More than anything else my concern is just getting the no contact order lifted. Both to hopefully continue the relationship and because she could testify to numerous things that would greatly help my case. She turns 18 in a matter of days.
My attorney informs me my only way to contact her is through a subpoena but adds "this is only if we go to trial and it takes a long time" seeing as the victim was not actually in any way victimized it seems idiotic for the state to file the order on her behalf. I have no way of knowing if she's even aware it's in place or what she can do to remove it. This seems incredibly unfair to both of us, she could just be lead to believe I don't want to talk to her, and any attempt to inform her of her rights or strengthen my defense count as a violation. She can't help my defense any if I have to wait until i've served out whatever my sentence is, obviously. Is there anything else I can do at all? Any other avenue that opens up after her birthday or that my lawyer can broach?
This whole thing seems mercilessly unfair and I'm just looking for hope here. Also if anyone could tell me how often couples in situations like this end up back together, i'd greatly appreciate it. I asked my attorney and they just avoided the subject by saying "it's too early in the case to discuss outcomes. Let us do our job." I trust my attorney, but I feel like I'm being stalled or avoided because my desire to reconnect so desperately could hurt my chances at a plea deal. I would absolutely never agree to a term which permanently forbade contact. I'd rather get a life sentence, wait for parole and be able to talk to her during my sentence. I don't care about what's rational or personal opinions on the relationship so please, spare me. I'd greatly appreciate answers to my actual questions.
Sorry if that comes off as rude, I'm just tired of getting the runaround.
For a little background on the case, I essentially intended to elope with a 17 year old girl who initially claimed to be several years older. Part of the motivation was aspects of her home life I considered abuse and she wanted to get away from. The relationship itself was perfectly legal -I'm several years older, but she is over the age of consent. However due to crossing state lines the case is a federal matter.
More than anything else my concern is just getting the no contact order lifted. Both to hopefully continue the relationship and because she could testify to numerous things that would greatly help my case. She turns 18 in a matter of days.
My attorney informs me my only way to contact her is through a subpoena but adds "this is only if we go to trial and it takes a long time" seeing as the victim was not actually in any way victimized it seems idiotic for the state to file the order on her behalf. I have no way of knowing if she's even aware it's in place or what she can do to remove it. This seems incredibly unfair to both of us, she could just be lead to believe I don't want to talk to her, and any attempt to inform her of her rights or strengthen my defense count as a violation. She can't help my defense any if I have to wait until i've served out whatever my sentence is, obviously. Is there anything else I can do at all? Any other avenue that opens up after her birthday or that my lawyer can broach?
This whole thing seems mercilessly unfair and I'm just looking for hope here. Also if anyone could tell me how often couples in situations like this end up back together, i'd greatly appreciate it. I asked my attorney and they just avoided the subject by saying "it's too early in the case to discuss outcomes. Let us do our job." I trust my attorney, but I feel like I'm being stalled or avoided because my desire to reconnect so desperately could hurt my chances at a plea deal. I would absolutely never agree to a term which permanently forbade contact. I'd rather get a life sentence, wait for parole and be able to talk to her during my sentence. I don't care about what's rational or personal opinions on the relationship so please, spare me. I'd greatly appreciate answers to my actual questions.
Sorry if that comes off as rude, I'm just tired of getting the runaround.
Termination: How to Inform Someone About No Contact Order So They Have the Option to Lift It
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