My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Wisconsin
Quick background: My gf has a 15 year old daughter. A little over three years ago, in a moment of bad decision making, my gf took her ex husbands new wife's car for a ride! She didn't break in or wreck anything....called AAA who came and made her a key. She brought it back filled up with gas and no damage. However, the police were waiting for her. :) She was put on probation for two years and charged with taking and driving a vehicle without owners consent. Part of the probation included no contact with her daughter. If she completed the probation and followed all of the rules, the court would consider dismissing the case, which they did!
Now, it's been nearly a year and she has been trying to reunite with her daughter. A couple of weeks ago she got word that a supervised visit would take place and she decided that was the right time to reach out via facebook messenger and start communicating with her daughter. Everything was great!! They messaged about how much they missed each other, shared pics, told each other what their lives were like now, and reminisced about things they shared in the past. Then the visit happened and that seemed to go well too. It was only an hour but the first hour of contact in over three years!
After that my gf talked via her lawyer about when the next visit would happen. Her lawyer reached out to the ex husbands lawyer and her ex husband responded saying that the daughter had spoken to a counselor and he also spoke to the same counselor and the daughter says she "feels busy" and can really only commit to visitation about once every three months! Yet, the two are still chatting on facebook a couple times a week and seem to want to continue this relationship.The father is a psychologist and has lots of connections in the area who work in that field. I smell a fish!
The next steps are to meet with our lawyer on Monday. My question is, even though I know the court will take the child's wishes into consideration, can she really say she only wants to visit once every three months even though she texts her mom back and forth, which indicates to me she'd like to spend more time with her mom? This reeks of parental alienation to me. How can we verify that this is indeed the child's wishes when we don't trust the fathers word but he has connections to professionals that would back his claim....even if it's not true? Can we request to hear it directly from the child since she is 15 and old enough to know what she is saying?
The father was also supposed to setup reunification therapy with a therapist so that everyone could start working through this mess. However, he seems to be dragging his feet on that piece. My suggestion would be mandatory reunification therapy to take place between court ordered visitation. At the conclusion of the therapy the daughter can then request once every three months, if she still feels that way (if she ever actually felt that way).
Quick background: My gf has a 15 year old daughter. A little over three years ago, in a moment of bad decision making, my gf took her ex husbands new wife's car for a ride! She didn't break in or wreck anything....called AAA who came and made her a key. She brought it back filled up with gas and no damage. However, the police were waiting for her. :) She was put on probation for two years and charged with taking and driving a vehicle without owners consent. Part of the probation included no contact with her daughter. If she completed the probation and followed all of the rules, the court would consider dismissing the case, which they did!
Now, it's been nearly a year and she has been trying to reunite with her daughter. A couple of weeks ago she got word that a supervised visit would take place and she decided that was the right time to reach out via facebook messenger and start communicating with her daughter. Everything was great!! They messaged about how much they missed each other, shared pics, told each other what their lives were like now, and reminisced about things they shared in the past. Then the visit happened and that seemed to go well too. It was only an hour but the first hour of contact in over three years!
After that my gf talked via her lawyer about when the next visit would happen. Her lawyer reached out to the ex husbands lawyer and her ex husband responded saying that the daughter had spoken to a counselor and he also spoke to the same counselor and the daughter says she "feels busy" and can really only commit to visitation about once every three months! Yet, the two are still chatting on facebook a couple times a week and seem to want to continue this relationship.The father is a psychologist and has lots of connections in the area who work in that field. I smell a fish!
The next steps are to meet with our lawyer on Monday. My question is, even though I know the court will take the child's wishes into consideration, can she really say she only wants to visit once every three months even though she texts her mom back and forth, which indicates to me she'd like to spend more time with her mom? This reeks of parental alienation to me. How can we verify that this is indeed the child's wishes when we don't trust the fathers word but he has connections to professionals that would back his claim....even if it's not true? Can we request to hear it directly from the child since she is 15 and old enough to know what she is saying?
The father was also supposed to setup reunification therapy with a therapist so that everyone could start working through this mess. However, he seems to be dragging his feet on that piece. My suggestion would be mandatory reunification therapy to take place between court ordered visitation. At the conclusion of the therapy the daughter can then request once every three months, if she still feels that way (if she ever actually felt that way).
Childs Input into Visitation Schedule and Possible Parental Alienation
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