My question involves a marriage in the state of: Ohio
Regarding this thread: http://ift.tt/2qhTmLo
The dissolution has been resolved and is final.
Some background as an update:
- My insistence she not return was a good move (those who said I couldn't "insist" need to look up the difference between "insist" and "compel") and was the foundation for her establishing a residence outside the current school district.
- Keeping the phone was a good move. A lot of information was recovered from it that "compelled" her to go through with the dissolution on my terms
- Once the residence of the children and other pieces of the post-separation balance of power were established, I focused on re-establishing an amicable relationship. This was a good move.
The terms:
I got both houses
I got 100% of my retirement
I get all kids as deductions all years
I get $450 a month from her (i make 110 vs her 65)
I pay $0 spousal support
She assumes more than half the outstanding debt
She pays half the medical out of pocket after insurance
She pays half for extracurricular
She takes the kids for half the time in summer
It's shared parenting
Bottom line for other victims of infidelity reading this, don't believe some of the BS of those in the other thread who suggested I was at a disadvantage ("I hope she moves back in" -- ohiogal ... sheesh, how can someone be emotionally invested in an anonymous poster enough to "hope" anything? lol.) if you find yourself in the position I was in you want to be extremely aggressive in establishing your interests, getting legal representation and then focus on creating and maintaining an amicable relationship to reduce or eliminate the defenses of your adversary.
Here are my questions: As early as it is, she is already pushing back on taking the kids for half the time. She'll say nonsensical things like, "they can't be here this weekend because I'm on call and might not be here to watch them"; or, "they can't be here in the summer when I'm at work and they have to be here alone." The kids are 14, 15 and 17... and she would do what I do, let the 17 be in charge or hire a baby sitter... anyway... I am documenting each time she won't take the kids.
She also complains to the kids about having to pay child support. The 17 yo told me the other day, "mom doesn't think I'm worth $150 a month" (i.e., one third of the $450). Sad.
Anyway, at what point should I approach an attorney about filing a motion for full custody? Six months? A year? When I file for full custody, will the child support recalculation be automatic since it's different for shared parenting and full custody? (In the original agreement, I voluntarily agreed to a 55% reduction but I think I'll insist on the full amount if there's a recalculation.)
Thanks.
Regarding this thread: http://ift.tt/2qhTmLo
The dissolution has been resolved and is final.
Some background as an update:
- My insistence she not return was a good move (those who said I couldn't "insist" need to look up the difference between "insist" and "compel") and was the foundation for her establishing a residence outside the current school district.
- Keeping the phone was a good move. A lot of information was recovered from it that "compelled" her to go through with the dissolution on my terms
- Once the residence of the children and other pieces of the post-separation balance of power were established, I focused on re-establishing an amicable relationship. This was a good move.
The terms:
I got both houses
I got 100% of my retirement
I get all kids as deductions all years
I get $450 a month from her (i make 110 vs her 65)
I pay $0 spousal support
She assumes more than half the outstanding debt
She pays half the medical out of pocket after insurance
She pays half for extracurricular
She takes the kids for half the time in summer
It's shared parenting
Bottom line for other victims of infidelity reading this, don't believe some of the BS of those in the other thread who suggested I was at a disadvantage ("I hope she moves back in" -- ohiogal ... sheesh, how can someone be emotionally invested in an anonymous poster enough to "hope" anything? lol.) if you find yourself in the position I was in you want to be extremely aggressive in establishing your interests, getting legal representation and then focus on creating and maintaining an amicable relationship to reduce or eliminate the defenses of your adversary.
Here are my questions: As early as it is, she is already pushing back on taking the kids for half the time. She'll say nonsensical things like, "they can't be here this weekend because I'm on call and might not be here to watch them"; or, "they can't be here in the summer when I'm at work and they have to be here alone." The kids are 14, 15 and 17... and she would do what I do, let the 17 be in charge or hire a baby sitter... anyway... I am documenting each time she won't take the kids.
She also complains to the kids about having to pay child support. The 17 yo told me the other day, "mom doesn't think I'm worth $150 a month" (i.e., one third of the $450). Sad.
Anyway, at what point should I approach an attorney about filing a motion for full custody? Six months? A year? When I file for full custody, will the child support recalculation be automatic since it's different for shared parenting and full custody? (In the original agreement, I voluntarily agreed to a 55% reduction but I think I'll insist on the full amount if there's a recalculation.)
Thanks.
Enforcement of Judgments: When to File for Full Custody vs Shared Parenting in Ohio
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