My question involves restraining orders in the State of: Florida.
Hello everyone,
For about 9 months I've been dating a narcissist. Not to get into name calling but I have suffered so much emotional abuse throughout the relationship due to his superiority complex. Because of this my ex and I had a very rocky relationship where we have broken up and gotten back together about 3 times. Recently we broke up and didn't speak for three days, wondering if this was official or not I called him to figure out where we stood in the relationship. The conversation was very good in the beginning, stating that he missed me and wanted to work things out. All of the sudden, he became extremely rude towards me, calling me names and basically ending it all over again. During the middle of my response, he hung up the phone and refused to call me back, texting me "Don't make it harder for yourself." Pissed and sad I sent him a very long text messages stating that he was a coward because he couldn't end it or give me closure over the phone. I stated that he can never hear anything negative about himself, that he always runs away from his problems, that he contains a personality disorder and needed help. I also stated that more touchy subjects like the notion that he thinks he's going to get into Harvard with his 3.2 GPA at a community college. Anyways, he replied saying I'm not reading this and blocked you. In response, i screen shotted what I sent him and sent it to his email along with two photos of his ex girlfriend's breakup message towards him, in order to tell him how sad that we both went through the same exact thing only 3 years apart and that if he continued this he would end up alone in life. Likewise, I told him the famous line "once a cheater, always a cheater" as I caught him talking to 5 other girls. He responded with, I'm going to forward all these messages to your mother. So then I texted him my last message, it was more of a goodbye and heartfelt, stating that i felt sad for him and that he was always in competition with me, putting through so much emotional abuse. I ended it stating that I could not wait to meet the right guy for me and wished him luck on finding his own soulmate. In all, the messages that I sent him, were for closure and clarity, not one curse word or threat was indicated throughout the messages. Just a lot of sadness concerning the way he chose to treat me and the people in his life. The worse thing that I stated in the messages was that he was pathetic and no women would ever want him if he did not change. Nevertheless, his response was brutal, he stated that he was not going to read my messages, that i was a spoiled brat, needed to move on our he would get the police involved. Threatened me by saying "good luck getting into law school with harassment on your record" and more rude comments. The end of his message nevertheless stated that "this is my formal request to stop contacting me... any further attempts to contact me will result in me getting a restraining order." I replied saying that "I wont read this either." In reference to the two times he said the same thing to me. Either way I got the message, I blocked him and deleted him from everywhere and will absolutely not contact him. My questions are, does he really have a case? It is petty break up drama that occurred in one sitting for 5 hours. It wasn't over a period of time, which I was told is needed. Likewise, I never threatened him or cursed, just expressed my feelings of sadness and betrayal for not ending it like a man, nothing that I said referred to me contacting him again as my last text ended with me saying good luck and goodbye. Correspondingly, lets say he does get a temporary restraining order, wont I win in court as he ultimately admitted to acquiring this order to primarily hurt my future, not because he's scared for his safety. I'm a mess right now. It's always been my dream to become a lawyer, I have absolutely no record at all not even a speeding ticket and I'm a great student. I should have know this was coming with my ex as he is constantly in and out of court trying to sue individuals for money. Ugh why me? Help please.
Also, I was told by one of my friends that a restraining order will only be necessary if I continue to contact him. Therefore, can the past messages be used or are they basically irrelevant if I never speak to him again, which I wont. Likewise, how long does he have to file this order before it's pointless. I'm assuming if he waits any longer than a month the judge will just dismiss it as he has not heard anything from me.
Hello everyone,
For about 9 months I've been dating a narcissist. Not to get into name calling but I have suffered so much emotional abuse throughout the relationship due to his superiority complex. Because of this my ex and I had a very rocky relationship where we have broken up and gotten back together about 3 times. Recently we broke up and didn't speak for three days, wondering if this was official or not I called him to figure out where we stood in the relationship. The conversation was very good in the beginning, stating that he missed me and wanted to work things out. All of the sudden, he became extremely rude towards me, calling me names and basically ending it all over again. During the middle of my response, he hung up the phone and refused to call me back, texting me "Don't make it harder for yourself." Pissed and sad I sent him a very long text messages stating that he was a coward because he couldn't end it or give me closure over the phone. I stated that he can never hear anything negative about himself, that he always runs away from his problems, that he contains a personality disorder and needed help. I also stated that more touchy subjects like the notion that he thinks he's going to get into Harvard with his 3.2 GPA at a community college. Anyways, he replied saying I'm not reading this and blocked you. In response, i screen shotted what I sent him and sent it to his email along with two photos of his ex girlfriend's breakup message towards him, in order to tell him how sad that we both went through the same exact thing only 3 years apart and that if he continued this he would end up alone in life. Likewise, I told him the famous line "once a cheater, always a cheater" as I caught him talking to 5 other girls. He responded with, I'm going to forward all these messages to your mother. So then I texted him my last message, it was more of a goodbye and heartfelt, stating that i felt sad for him and that he was always in competition with me, putting through so much emotional abuse. I ended it stating that I could not wait to meet the right guy for me and wished him luck on finding his own soulmate. In all, the messages that I sent him, were for closure and clarity, not one curse word or threat was indicated throughout the messages. Just a lot of sadness concerning the way he chose to treat me and the people in his life. The worse thing that I stated in the messages was that he was pathetic and no women would ever want him if he did not change. Nevertheless, his response was brutal, he stated that he was not going to read my messages, that i was a spoiled brat, needed to move on our he would get the police involved. Threatened me by saying "good luck getting into law school with harassment on your record" and more rude comments. The end of his message nevertheless stated that "this is my formal request to stop contacting me... any further attempts to contact me will result in me getting a restraining order." I replied saying that "I wont read this either." In reference to the two times he said the same thing to me. Either way I got the message, I blocked him and deleted him from everywhere and will absolutely not contact him. My questions are, does he really have a case? It is petty break up drama that occurred in one sitting for 5 hours. It wasn't over a period of time, which I was told is needed. Likewise, I never threatened him or cursed, just expressed my feelings of sadness and betrayal for not ending it like a man, nothing that I said referred to me contacting him again as my last text ended with me saying good luck and goodbye. Correspondingly, lets say he does get a temporary restraining order, wont I win in court as he ultimately admitted to acquiring this order to primarily hurt my future, not because he's scared for his safety. I'm a mess right now. It's always been my dream to become a lawyer, I have absolutely no record at all not even a speeding ticket and I'm a great student. I should have know this was coming with my ex as he is constantly in and out of court trying to sue individuals for money. Ugh why me? Help please.
Also, I was told by one of my friends that a restraining order will only be necessary if I continue to contact him. Therefore, can the past messages be used or are they basically irrelevant if I never speak to him again, which I wont. Likewise, how long does he have to file this order before it's pointless. I'm assuming if he waits any longer than a month the judge will just dismiss it as he has not heard anything from me.
Establishment: Can I Actually Receive a Restraining Order
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