My question involves paternity law for the State of: UNKNOWN (Missouri?)
First things first--my mother has always been strange and mentally ill. I have few or no explanations for anything she has ever done or not done in my regard; all I know is what I know about my self and my familial history and nothing she ever told me can be trusted.
I was born in 1965 to my mother who was married at the time to a man enlisted in the Army (named officially as my father as per my official Missouri birth certificate). My mother has always had a propensity for causing drama and trouble, particularly when she was younger. Somehow, someway, I was born and at some point later she supposedly divorced him (or maybe he divorced her).
She abandoned me with my maternal grandparents before I was a year old and ran off with a traveling, land salesman who she remained with until he died (they did marry finally when my step-sister was 16). Eventually she took me to live with them when I was nearly 6 and she always used my step-father's last name for me. even though they weren't married until I was around 20, she always used his last name for herself, me, and my step-sister. Eventually, I got to working age and required my birth certificate and discovered I not only had a different REAL last name, but I had a man named as my real dad on my birth certificate. It also states that at the time of my birth she had ~1~ OTHER living child currently alive at the time of my birth--but, I have always been told and it has always been accepted that I am her oldest child. All of my school records until I reached high school age used my step dad's last name (fake name).
When I got angry and demanded to know the truth, my mother gave me multiple stories, but the one which makes the most sense is in anger once--she blurted out to me that she never wanted me to know who my real dad was because she and my step-dad knew I would try to find him if I knew who he was and they thought that would be disrespectful since my step-dad paid to support me all those years.... BLAH.
With so much misinformation and manipulation, I never felt empowered enough to investigate and I also never had any money to spend to locate him. If he ever knew about me or looked for me, he wouldn't have been able to find me mostly because of how she switched my name illegally. I am now in my early 50's and was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer in 2014. I went to Ancestry.com and tested the waters looking for anyone who may know him, and his niece responded. Initially, she said they contacted him and he DID want to talk to me... so I gave her my contact info, but he never did. So I asked her what happened and she said he had dementia and would NOT be contacting me after all. She also said I had at least one step-sister and his current wife knew nothing about me or his previous marriage to my mother, and I started wondering what the heck was going on. Oh...She also emailed me a picture of him, which definitely it DOES look like he and I favor each other, very much.
My entire life has been a joke really, and it has been a difficult one. I feel like somebody, somewhere should do right by me for once. If he is not my dad or if he is... I feel, I have the right to know. I feel I also have certain rights if I am his oldest surviving child, which may be why his family is blocking me (if he does have dementia). Do I have any rights? I searched the internet and can find nothing that helps.
First things first--my mother has always been strange and mentally ill. I have few or no explanations for anything she has ever done or not done in my regard; all I know is what I know about my self and my familial history and nothing she ever told me can be trusted.
I was born in 1965 to my mother who was married at the time to a man enlisted in the Army (named officially as my father as per my official Missouri birth certificate). My mother has always had a propensity for causing drama and trouble, particularly when she was younger. Somehow, someway, I was born and at some point later she supposedly divorced him (or maybe he divorced her).
She abandoned me with my maternal grandparents before I was a year old and ran off with a traveling, land salesman who she remained with until he died (they did marry finally when my step-sister was 16). Eventually she took me to live with them when I was nearly 6 and she always used my step-father's last name for me. even though they weren't married until I was around 20, she always used his last name for herself, me, and my step-sister. Eventually, I got to working age and required my birth certificate and discovered I not only had a different REAL last name, but I had a man named as my real dad on my birth certificate. It also states that at the time of my birth she had ~1~ OTHER living child currently alive at the time of my birth--but, I have always been told and it has always been accepted that I am her oldest child. All of my school records until I reached high school age used my step dad's last name (fake name).
When I got angry and demanded to know the truth, my mother gave me multiple stories, but the one which makes the most sense is in anger once--she blurted out to me that she never wanted me to know who my real dad was because she and my step-dad knew I would try to find him if I knew who he was and they thought that would be disrespectful since my step-dad paid to support me all those years.... BLAH.
With so much misinformation and manipulation, I never felt empowered enough to investigate and I also never had any money to spend to locate him. If he ever knew about me or looked for me, he wouldn't have been able to find me mostly because of how she switched my name illegally. I am now in my early 50's and was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer in 2014. I went to Ancestry.com and tested the waters looking for anyone who may know him, and his niece responded. Initially, she said they contacted him and he DID want to talk to me... so I gave her my contact info, but he never did. So I asked her what happened and she said he had dementia and would NOT be contacting me after all. She also said I had at least one step-sister and his current wife knew nothing about me or his previous marriage to my mother, and I started wondering what the heck was going on. Oh...She also emailed me a picture of him, which definitely it DOES look like he and I favor each other, very much.
My entire life has been a joke really, and it has been a difficult one. I feel like somebody, somewhere should do right by me for once. If he is not my dad or if he is... I feel, I have the right to know. I feel I also have certain rights if I am his oldest surviving child, which may be why his family is blocking me (if he does have dementia). Do I have any rights? I searched the internet and can find nothing that helps.
Presumption of Paternity: The Man on My Birth Certificate
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