My question involves a child custody case from the State of: PA...philadelphia pa
I cannot stand my ex wife anymore. The mere sight and sound of her makes me furious and sick to my stomach. Unfortunately we have 2 children and the fact that she's raising them to be lazy dumb pigs like her drives me crazy. I had courts do a custody evaluation- which she didn't even have to pay for- and she brainwashed our kids into telling them I beat her up, I think they let her keep primary custody just to be safe than sorry bc the evaluation was a joke- they didn't change ANYTHING in the temporary custody order.
Our order says I get the kids on my 2 days off which changes every 2 weeks, I know that might not be that great for them but it's just the shift I'm on. Pick up is curb side and we're supposed to text each other to agree on a time.
It also says both of us are entitled to attend meeting and appointments for school and therapy and doctors. 1 kid has autism and the other one has speech delays and maybe also autism so theres always a lot of appointments.
It also says additional time as agreed between the parents.
We have shared legal and there's a first refusal part where we get to babysit for the other parent if the parent can't take care of the kids during thier time.
The courts don't understand how unbearable this woman is. If I have to ask her what time I can pick up my own children she'll tell me a time that's convenient for her. So I just text her when I'm out front. She complains all the time about it tho and threatens me with contempt.
There is no way I'm sitting thru any meetings with her but everytime I ask the school and the doctors for a seperate meeting she first sends them all a copy of the order and threatens them if they try to exclude her, as if they all already didn't schedule a meeting just for her, then she threatens me for contempt. I just don't go if she's going to be there. Fortunately, the school my son goes to knows she's a problem so thankfully just this year they let me keep a seperate meeting despite her protests. Last year she wanted to put him in a different school, now I know why. I'm so glad both schools listened to me when I told them both- the school he's in and the school that said he could attend- to cancel all meetings, that my son is not to change schools.
I can't stand her around our kids, so if I have to work late there's no way I'm going to ask her to watch them. But if she finds out, she threatens contempt. I let her watch them if I have to work on my day off so it's not like I do it often, but these are petty things.
Because of my job, I don't get them on most of the holidays. So if my family is doing something I'll ask her a few days ahead of time if I can get them for a few hours. Always the same thing- no text back until the day before or she'll get back to me and then doesn't. This year, if she didn't get back to me afyer a day or two, I would ask my daughter first and then her. She spoils our kids rotten, but I still love them and still want to see them. So if I have to use her crappy parenting against her since she can't say no to our kids just so I can see our kids I'm going to do it. We are divorced, she can't get it thru her dumb ugly head that she can't make me do what she wants anymore.
My lawyer told me a while ago that one the custody order is in place philadelphia family court doesn't care if it's followed as long as I don't try to steal the kids. Monday she called me and said my ex filed for contempt and that over the past 2 years I violated it over a hundred times. Now my lawyer is saying I might have gone overboard and is saying my ex might get the changes she wants. It's not really a hundred violations more like 20 to 30 of 4 or 5 different things.
Even though my ex texted me about every little thing I did wrong she still waited 2 years to do anything about it. If she really had a problem with me texting her when I was there instead of asking her what time I could come, shouldn't she have filed for contempt 2 years ago? 1.5 years ago? A year ago? She let it all go on for 2 years. Can I really get in trouble for this because NOW my exwife wants to do something about it?
I know all this might sound bad, but she really is an awful person. No one likes her. I think she's only doing it now bc technically we aren't divorced yet but it's definitely winding up to be over. I think she's just trying to use the kids to make herself look better somehow when we get before a judge for the trial. Won't family court notice that?
I cannot stand my ex wife anymore. The mere sight and sound of her makes me furious and sick to my stomach. Unfortunately we have 2 children and the fact that she's raising them to be lazy dumb pigs like her drives me crazy. I had courts do a custody evaluation- which she didn't even have to pay for- and she brainwashed our kids into telling them I beat her up, I think they let her keep primary custody just to be safe than sorry bc the evaluation was a joke- they didn't change ANYTHING in the temporary custody order.
Our order says I get the kids on my 2 days off which changes every 2 weeks, I know that might not be that great for them but it's just the shift I'm on. Pick up is curb side and we're supposed to text each other to agree on a time.
It also says both of us are entitled to attend meeting and appointments for school and therapy and doctors. 1 kid has autism and the other one has speech delays and maybe also autism so theres always a lot of appointments.
It also says additional time as agreed between the parents.
We have shared legal and there's a first refusal part where we get to babysit for the other parent if the parent can't take care of the kids during thier time.
The courts don't understand how unbearable this woman is. If I have to ask her what time I can pick up my own children she'll tell me a time that's convenient for her. So I just text her when I'm out front. She complains all the time about it tho and threatens me with contempt.
There is no way I'm sitting thru any meetings with her but everytime I ask the school and the doctors for a seperate meeting she first sends them all a copy of the order and threatens them if they try to exclude her, as if they all already didn't schedule a meeting just for her, then she threatens me for contempt. I just don't go if she's going to be there. Fortunately, the school my son goes to knows she's a problem so thankfully just this year they let me keep a seperate meeting despite her protests. Last year she wanted to put him in a different school, now I know why. I'm so glad both schools listened to me when I told them both- the school he's in and the school that said he could attend- to cancel all meetings, that my son is not to change schools.
I can't stand her around our kids, so if I have to work late there's no way I'm going to ask her to watch them. But if she finds out, she threatens contempt. I let her watch them if I have to work on my day off so it's not like I do it often, but these are petty things.
Because of my job, I don't get them on most of the holidays. So if my family is doing something I'll ask her a few days ahead of time if I can get them for a few hours. Always the same thing- no text back until the day before or she'll get back to me and then doesn't. This year, if she didn't get back to me afyer a day or two, I would ask my daughter first and then her. She spoils our kids rotten, but I still love them and still want to see them. So if I have to use her crappy parenting against her since she can't say no to our kids just so I can see our kids I'm going to do it. We are divorced, she can't get it thru her dumb ugly head that she can't make me do what she wants anymore.
My lawyer told me a while ago that one the custody order is in place philadelphia family court doesn't care if it's followed as long as I don't try to steal the kids. Monday she called me and said my ex filed for contempt and that over the past 2 years I violated it over a hundred times. Now my lawyer is saying I might have gone overboard and is saying my ex might get the changes she wants. It's not really a hundred violations more like 20 to 30 of 4 or 5 different things.
Even though my ex texted me about every little thing I did wrong she still waited 2 years to do anything about it. If she really had a problem with me texting her when I was there instead of asking her what time I could come, shouldn't she have filed for contempt 2 years ago? 1.5 years ago? A year ago? She let it all go on for 2 years. Can I really get in trouble for this because NOW my exwife wants to do something about it?
I know all this might sound bad, but she really is an awful person. No one likes her. I think she's only doing it now bc technically we aren't divorced yet but it's definitely winding up to be over. I think she's just trying to use the kids to make herself look better somehow when we get before a judge for the trial. Won't family court notice that?
My Attorney Says Not to Worry About Violating Custody Order Bc Court Won't Care
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