My question involves a child custody case from the State of: PA
Im so over it. I have a 15 year old child that I love dearly but I guess I made many mistakes with her. She is rude, ungrateful and thinks she is Paris Hilton or something. Her dad (my ex who I was with for nearly 10 years) has narcissitic tendencies and despite my efforts to instill empathy and compassion it has failed. I am at my wits end. I just want to go on strike. A few months ago she got drunk and had sex and I had to buy her the Plan B. But I am the evil one because I don't want to continue to encourgage poor behaivor.
the child and I live with her dad's parents because its a really good school district and I have a temporary job. So this is the safest bet and comes with its own challenges. Her dad lives with his new girlfriend in another school district and there is no court order or legal custody. I told him that I no longer wish to go out of my way every weekend to these sporting events only to be treated like pond scum. He said that I "have" to because I "promised" to do that and that was the deal.
I told him that I did not promise to be her doormat and she has broken the deal.
For example, this halloween I purchased her a costume online, she wore it all was good. A few days later there was another "party" that she was invited to and she wanted for me to buy another costume. I suggested we go to a thrift store. She snubbed that idea and ended up not going to the party. I was not pleased and I did not react very well. It's stupid. Like how dare you think you are better than you are. Nothing is wrong with a thrift store halloween costume. I told her she lacked creativity and is a snob. I was probably mean for saying that.
I already spent $30 bucks on a costume, now you won't even consider a second hand, Then today, It was pouring out, I texted her i was on way to get her. I was 12 minutes late from the time her practice ended till when I was able to arrive. When she called me I told her where I was and that my car was skidding and I had to drive slowly. She made a snarky comment and hung up on me. again. It's not the end of the world here but I do not react well to this. My ability to discipline is limited and she called her dad and he came and got her.
I am about ready to just live in my car. It already sucks living with your ex-husbands parents, then for him to tell you that you cannot discipline the kid and that I have no choice but to continue to appease her so I'm ready to be over this........ Putting MORALS aside. He pays his parents $400 a month for her share of the rent and I pay them $500 a month. They have asked me to leave a few times over these incidents but relented when I shared my version.
I am tired of it that I am ready to leave on my own and just live in my car, I can get a gym membership to take showers and have wifi access. I would lose weight, I could park my car 5 minutes from my job and not have to talk to anyone ever again. I would happily pay my child support to her father or his parents but can I be forced to take her every week to her sporting events and pay for that on top of the $500 or will that be included in the child support.
Morally I want the best for my child and want to see her thrive but I do not wish to continue to encourage her poor treatment like I am her slave. Will a court order me to continue to be her personal servant.
I am at a point in my life where all I want to do is meet the basic legal obligations. Her social life is of no importance to me any more.
Im so over it. I have a 15 year old child that I love dearly but I guess I made many mistakes with her. She is rude, ungrateful and thinks she is Paris Hilton or something. Her dad (my ex who I was with for nearly 10 years) has narcissitic tendencies and despite my efforts to instill empathy and compassion it has failed. I am at my wits end. I just want to go on strike. A few months ago she got drunk and had sex and I had to buy her the Plan B. But I am the evil one because I don't want to continue to encourgage poor behaivor.
the child and I live with her dad's parents because its a really good school district and I have a temporary job. So this is the safest bet and comes with its own challenges. Her dad lives with his new girlfriend in another school district and there is no court order or legal custody. I told him that I no longer wish to go out of my way every weekend to these sporting events only to be treated like pond scum. He said that I "have" to because I "promised" to do that and that was the deal.
I told him that I did not promise to be her doormat and she has broken the deal.
For example, this halloween I purchased her a costume online, she wore it all was good. A few days later there was another "party" that she was invited to and she wanted for me to buy another costume. I suggested we go to a thrift store. She snubbed that idea and ended up not going to the party. I was not pleased and I did not react very well. It's stupid. Like how dare you think you are better than you are. Nothing is wrong with a thrift store halloween costume. I told her she lacked creativity and is a snob. I was probably mean for saying that.
I already spent $30 bucks on a costume, now you won't even consider a second hand, Then today, It was pouring out, I texted her i was on way to get her. I was 12 minutes late from the time her practice ended till when I was able to arrive. When she called me I told her where I was and that my car was skidding and I had to drive slowly. She made a snarky comment and hung up on me. again. It's not the end of the world here but I do not react well to this. My ability to discipline is limited and she called her dad and he came and got her.
I am about ready to just live in my car. It already sucks living with your ex-husbands parents, then for him to tell you that you cannot discipline the kid and that I have no choice but to continue to appease her so I'm ready to be over this........ Putting MORALS aside. He pays his parents $400 a month for her share of the rent and I pay them $500 a month. They have asked me to leave a few times over these incidents but relented when I shared my version.
I am tired of it that I am ready to leave on my own and just live in my car, I can get a gym membership to take showers and have wifi access. I would lose weight, I could park my car 5 minutes from my job and not have to talk to anyone ever again. I would happily pay my child support to her father or his parents but can I be forced to take her every week to her sporting events and pay for that on top of the $500 or will that be included in the child support.
Morally I want the best for my child and want to see her thrive but I do not wish to continue to encourage her poor treatment like I am her slave. Will a court order me to continue to be her personal servant.
I am at a point in my life where all I want to do is meet the basic legal obligations. Her social life is of no importance to me any more.
Establishing an Order: Legal Financial Obligations of Parent Not Moral Obligations
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