My question involves criminal law for the state of: Washington
Hello, I am very nervous talking about this due to the subject matter and am experiencing a lot of anxiety. Please be kind.
It has been very difficult for me to report things that my husband had done to me. Because we were married, I didn't think anyone would take me seriously. I am not a prude at all and I am not making this up. I wanted to be with my husband but not under the horrible circumstances in which he forced himself on me while drunk, high, and very verbally abusive and would even spit on me. He has an issue with alcoholism and drugs that unfortunately he hid very well before we got married and I was naive. To the outside world he appears nice and clean-cut but is very manipulative and abusive emotionally, mentally and financially. Several people have told me that he appears to have Narcissistic Personal Disorder. I believe this to be true as well. However, he has not been diagnosed and a true narcissists would never get diagnosed anyway...
Whenever I requested that he stop doing certain things he would threaten me. I was afraid that he would kill me or take my kids away. He threatened to do the same and punished me anytime I spoke up.
There were times that I could not walk due to his abuse and he would tell me that women were not allowed to speak their mind, that I needed to "submit" and shut up because I was a whore. He would then tell me how horrible of a mother I was and told his family that I was abusing my children. I don't want to go into the specifics of what he accused me of because I don't want him to find my post. But he and others in the family (because of his persistent lies about me) called CPS on me a total of 3 times. All claims were unfounded. But this put a lot of fear in me because I had CPS show up to my door whenever I asked him to stop abusing me. I was horrified! He has made me out to be a crazy person who is on pills and a drunk when he is the one who has the problem. All I have done is care for my kids and hope for the best marriage. I didn't think there was any help for me so beyond saying he had a drinking problem, I didn't ask for help aside from confiding in my parents and one other who just told me to leave.
Fast forward two years later and he still continues to abuse me but I have left our home. Two of my oldest children has since revealed to me some of the things he would do to them when I was out shopping. He didn't do anything sexual according to them but he was very cruel.
I called the police in our new state to report what he had done and they asked that I call Washington state. There is a marital rape exemption in the new state and the child abuse did not occur there.
I reported the sexual assault and the treatment of my children. The detective has been very helpful and kind. He has interviewed my children and three adults that I told about the abuse towards me when it happened the first time and he is possibly facing criminal charges for both.
The detective told one of my parents that he was planning on sending a summons to my husband next week so that he can question him. My question is, what does this mean? From what I can understand he wants to question him and then send all of the evidence thus far to the prosecutor who will then decide if charges will be pressed against him? Am I right? What if he decides to not show up and be questioned?
I am afraid he is going to lash out at me once he finds out that I reported him. I am unable to get a protection order where I am hiding because none of the abuse occurred here. I really don't feel safe. He looks like a nice guy but he really is not. I am suffering from PTSD and cannot sleep at night in fear that he will find us and try to kill me or hurt me.
Can someone please help me to understand what this summons means as there is no court date and I am just worried that he will now catch wind of the report and spend all of his energy locating me.
Hello, I am very nervous talking about this due to the subject matter and am experiencing a lot of anxiety. Please be kind.
It has been very difficult for me to report things that my husband had done to me. Because we were married, I didn't think anyone would take me seriously. I am not a prude at all and I am not making this up. I wanted to be with my husband but not under the horrible circumstances in which he forced himself on me while drunk, high, and very verbally abusive and would even spit on me. He has an issue with alcoholism and drugs that unfortunately he hid very well before we got married and I was naive. To the outside world he appears nice and clean-cut but is very manipulative and abusive emotionally, mentally and financially. Several people have told me that he appears to have Narcissistic Personal Disorder. I believe this to be true as well. However, he has not been diagnosed and a true narcissists would never get diagnosed anyway...
Whenever I requested that he stop doing certain things he would threaten me. I was afraid that he would kill me or take my kids away. He threatened to do the same and punished me anytime I spoke up.
There were times that I could not walk due to his abuse and he would tell me that women were not allowed to speak their mind, that I needed to "submit" and shut up because I was a whore. He would then tell me how horrible of a mother I was and told his family that I was abusing my children. I don't want to go into the specifics of what he accused me of because I don't want him to find my post. But he and others in the family (because of his persistent lies about me) called CPS on me a total of 3 times. All claims were unfounded. But this put a lot of fear in me because I had CPS show up to my door whenever I asked him to stop abusing me. I was horrified! He has made me out to be a crazy person who is on pills and a drunk when he is the one who has the problem. All I have done is care for my kids and hope for the best marriage. I didn't think there was any help for me so beyond saying he had a drinking problem, I didn't ask for help aside from confiding in my parents and one other who just told me to leave.
Fast forward two years later and he still continues to abuse me but I have left our home. Two of my oldest children has since revealed to me some of the things he would do to them when I was out shopping. He didn't do anything sexual according to them but he was very cruel.
I called the police in our new state to report what he had done and they asked that I call Washington state. There is a marital rape exemption in the new state and the child abuse did not occur there.
I reported the sexual assault and the treatment of my children. The detective has been very helpful and kind. He has interviewed my children and three adults that I told about the abuse towards me when it happened the first time and he is possibly facing criminal charges for both.
The detective told one of my parents that he was planning on sending a summons to my husband next week so that he can question him. My question is, what does this mean? From what I can understand he wants to question him and then send all of the evidence thus far to the prosecutor who will then decide if charges will be pressed against him? Am I right? What if he decides to not show up and be questioned?
I am afraid he is going to lash out at me once he finds out that I reported him. I am unable to get a protection order where I am hiding because none of the abuse occurred here. I really don't feel safe. He looks like a nice guy but he really is not. I am suffering from PTSD and cannot sleep at night in fear that he will find us and try to kill me or hurt me.
Can someone please help me to understand what this summons means as there is no court date and I am just worried that he will now catch wind of the report and spend all of his energy locating me.
Sex Offenses: Marital Rape, Child Abuse
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