My question involves child abuse or neglect in the State of: New Jersey
Hello, I'm a 16 year old girl who was taken from her mom in summer of 2014. When i was placed with my father, my life changed. Though the court saw my mom's actions as neglectful, I never felt so depressed, humiliated, and unloved like I do with my dad's family. I truly love my dad but my relationships with the people in this households are unhealthy. I was taken from one extreme situation and thrown into another and now I need something in between.
Though I'm no longer physically abused with my dad, the things that are said to me have had a lasting affect. He calls me pitiful, pathetic, stupid, an a*s, and so on.
My stepmom is even worse though. She ignores me when i speak to her and let's doors slam in my face. One time she even pulled off with my leg still hanging out of the car. She yells and curses constantly. She's told people in front of me that she can't wait until I'm 18 so I can leave. They even want to force me to get a job and help them pay bills, meanwhile my older stepsister was expelled from school and acts out but isn't expected to do anything. They'd never take money from her. Plus, my stepmom has me walk over a mile home everyday, even in freezing weather and snow while she's out. Sometimes i have to wait a half an hour until she gets home to let me in. She leaves me home alone and goes out to bond with both of her daughters ALL the time. One of them she was going to let fight me in the past.
We've had family therapy before that was so explosive that they now refuse it all together. They even want to discontinue individual therapy DEMANDED by crisis because my stepmom said in front of me that the copay is way too expensive. Yet they have paid for my step sister (mentioned above) to go to modeling school. They left me to stop medication cold turkey without a doctors's consent when I was taken off of a physiatrist and my eyes haven't been checked in almost 3 years. I can barely see with these glasses.
I am cursed and yelled at in front of people. After I gave up trying to initiate conversations with my stepmom, my dad called me screaming and threatening because she told him I didn't say good morning. When I tell him how she treats me, he calls me a liar even when he wasn't there to see it. That's when the shaming begins.
They tell me that when I'm gone the house is peaceful and stress free and that I am the problem. My stress and depression got so bad once that I had lost 10 lbs from not eating in 4 days. This was because for a month I kept throwing up my food. My stomach was just always upset.
I feel like I am mentally raising myself. They ALMOST provide basic shelter and necessities but no emotional support. I only come out of my room to eat and use the bathroom so that they can't reject me anymore. It hurts too bad. I feel that this is harmful to me mental health. I plan to get a stable job and finally act on emancipation which I have been researching for quite a while. This is considered emotional abuse which may be grounds for emancipation. I have done calculations based on hours I can work while leaving time for schoolwork and I can handle this. I know it can be better than what is happening here. I just need to prove that this is happening. I have dated logs but how else can I prove this?
Thank you so much for your time and help!
Hello, I'm a 16 year old girl who was taken from her mom in summer of 2014. When i was placed with my father, my life changed. Though the court saw my mom's actions as neglectful, I never felt so depressed, humiliated, and unloved like I do with my dad's family. I truly love my dad but my relationships with the people in this households are unhealthy. I was taken from one extreme situation and thrown into another and now I need something in between.
Though I'm no longer physically abused with my dad, the things that are said to me have had a lasting affect. He calls me pitiful, pathetic, stupid, an a*s, and so on.
My stepmom is even worse though. She ignores me when i speak to her and let's doors slam in my face. One time she even pulled off with my leg still hanging out of the car. She yells and curses constantly. She's told people in front of me that she can't wait until I'm 18 so I can leave. They even want to force me to get a job and help them pay bills, meanwhile my older stepsister was expelled from school and acts out but isn't expected to do anything. They'd never take money from her. Plus, my stepmom has me walk over a mile home everyday, even in freezing weather and snow while she's out. Sometimes i have to wait a half an hour until she gets home to let me in. She leaves me home alone and goes out to bond with both of her daughters ALL the time. One of them she was going to let fight me in the past.
We've had family therapy before that was so explosive that they now refuse it all together. They even want to discontinue individual therapy DEMANDED by crisis because my stepmom said in front of me that the copay is way too expensive. Yet they have paid for my step sister (mentioned above) to go to modeling school. They left me to stop medication cold turkey without a doctors's consent when I was taken off of a physiatrist and my eyes haven't been checked in almost 3 years. I can barely see with these glasses.
I am cursed and yelled at in front of people. After I gave up trying to initiate conversations with my stepmom, my dad called me screaming and threatening because she told him I didn't say good morning. When I tell him how she treats me, he calls me a liar even when he wasn't there to see it. That's when the shaming begins.
They tell me that when I'm gone the house is peaceful and stress free and that I am the problem. My stress and depression got so bad once that I had lost 10 lbs from not eating in 4 days. This was because for a month I kept throwing up my food. My stomach was just always upset.
I feel like I am mentally raising myself. They ALMOST provide basic shelter and necessities but no emotional support. I only come out of my room to eat and use the bathroom so that they can't reject me anymore. It hurts too bad. I feel that this is harmful to me mental health. I plan to get a stable job and finally act on emancipation which I have been researching for quite a while. This is considered emotional abuse which may be grounds for emancipation. I have done calculations based on hours I can work while leaving time for schoolwork and I can handle this. I know it can be better than what is happening here. I just need to prove that this is happening. I have dated logs but how else can I prove this?
Thank you so much for your time and help!
Child Abuse: Emotional Abuse (Mainly by Step-Parent)
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