My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Florida
I've been going through the worst time of my life, so I'd rather not go through all the details of my situation. However, I will try to describe it in general as best I can, and it is indeed horrible.
I was recently arrested and charged with a domestic battery. There was a fight, and things happened, and some neighbor called the police.
To make a long story short, I really thought we would get through this, and move on, but my girlfriend and mother of my child apparently has developed other plans, despite the fact that she knows the real situation, what happened, and all that she is lying about.
She's met with the prosecutors and said some very bad things about me, and told some outright lies on the police report. They had evidence of a mark on her face (picture), but I also had a bruise on my arm, which was photographed but left out of the report. I also made some untrue statements on the police report, but they really only helped incriminate me more, and I was also hysterically upset (first time ever being arrested), and was trying to protect her (very foolish).
There is an automatic no contact order, and she will not have it lifted. She's also lying to the prosecutor and others about bringing my son to supervised visitations. I've had to get a loan for thousands in private attorney fees, and even with that, I am desperately awaiting a dv agreement (as a first time offender), and that agreement will likely cost thousands more, and take at least 6 months to complete, if I can do it in record time. I likely wont' be able to due to finances. It may take me longer.
In the meantime, I've having lots of emotional upset at both not seeing my child, and the poor prospects that I will ever have even proper custody with him in the near future. I've read that in recent years, even have a charge of "domestic violence" can affect custody decisions, and again my girlfriend could essentially use that as another way to hurt me and block me from seeing my son, because he was in the house when the incident happened.
Based on past conversations with her, and our current (bad) financial situation, I think she may be moving out of state with my child to rich relatives that may take her and my child in as a charity, and who knows what after that. Of course, I do not want this, and the effects would be devastating. She is very selfish, and doesn't care about my precious son to the effect of him being in my life. So, I also feel that such an offer of charity fueled what she has been doing in recent days with this case. Sadly, I had a child with the wrong person, and I was told something like this would happen with her, and I didn't listen.
The problem I'm facing seems so hopeless. With the no contact order, I have no ready way to "know" her whereabouts, for legal purpose or other. At the same time, I've read that Florida has laws about parents relocating out of state without permission of other parent. I've also read that you need to be married or establish paternity. My name is on the birth certificate, and my son shares my last name. We are unmarried, so of course never divorced, and have never been to court for anything before this. So, no parenting plan or custody arrangements are in place. My son was also born in this county in which I reside in Florida.
I'm trying to come to grips with the fact she may be able to keep my son from me until he is much older. However, if there are laws about relocation, and I have any rights at all, I definitely want to exercise them. I am sure I don't have or won't be able to get the money it would take to do a custody battle, and again with the no contact, I don't understand how a parent ever gets rights back to his child, except by supervised visitation. I've also heard that if/when I get an agreement from the prosecution, and complete it, then that could show that I am "reformed" or whatever term they use.
I just need the hope of seeing my son again someday soon, and I really don't want it to be for an hour at some supervised center. That would be traumatic for me and him. He's only 2 years old, and he doesn't even deal with me or her leaving the house for work, etc. I can't imagine what it would be like after all this, and I really don't want to.
Thanks so much for reading about my situation, and any ideas or help you might have.
I've been going through the worst time of my life, so I'd rather not go through all the details of my situation. However, I will try to describe it in general as best I can, and it is indeed horrible.
I was recently arrested and charged with a domestic battery. There was a fight, and things happened, and some neighbor called the police.
To make a long story short, I really thought we would get through this, and move on, but my girlfriend and mother of my child apparently has developed other plans, despite the fact that she knows the real situation, what happened, and all that she is lying about.
She's met with the prosecutors and said some very bad things about me, and told some outright lies on the police report. They had evidence of a mark on her face (picture), but I also had a bruise on my arm, which was photographed but left out of the report. I also made some untrue statements on the police report, but they really only helped incriminate me more, and I was also hysterically upset (first time ever being arrested), and was trying to protect her (very foolish).
There is an automatic no contact order, and she will not have it lifted. She's also lying to the prosecutor and others about bringing my son to supervised visitations. I've had to get a loan for thousands in private attorney fees, and even with that, I am desperately awaiting a dv agreement (as a first time offender), and that agreement will likely cost thousands more, and take at least 6 months to complete, if I can do it in record time. I likely wont' be able to due to finances. It may take me longer.
In the meantime, I've having lots of emotional upset at both not seeing my child, and the poor prospects that I will ever have even proper custody with him in the near future. I've read that in recent years, even have a charge of "domestic violence" can affect custody decisions, and again my girlfriend could essentially use that as another way to hurt me and block me from seeing my son, because he was in the house when the incident happened.
Based on past conversations with her, and our current (bad) financial situation, I think she may be moving out of state with my child to rich relatives that may take her and my child in as a charity, and who knows what after that. Of course, I do not want this, and the effects would be devastating. She is very selfish, and doesn't care about my precious son to the effect of him being in my life. So, I also feel that such an offer of charity fueled what she has been doing in recent days with this case. Sadly, I had a child with the wrong person, and I was told something like this would happen with her, and I didn't listen.
The problem I'm facing seems so hopeless. With the no contact order, I have no ready way to "know" her whereabouts, for legal purpose or other. At the same time, I've read that Florida has laws about parents relocating out of state without permission of other parent. I've also read that you need to be married or establish paternity. My name is on the birth certificate, and my son shares my last name. We are unmarried, so of course never divorced, and have never been to court for anything before this. So, no parenting plan or custody arrangements are in place. My son was also born in this county in which I reside in Florida.
I'm trying to come to grips with the fact she may be able to keep my son from me until he is much older. However, if there are laws about relocation, and I have any rights at all, I definitely want to exercise them. I am sure I don't have or won't be able to get the money it would take to do a custody battle, and again with the no contact, I don't understand how a parent ever gets rights back to his child, except by supervised visitation. I've also heard that if/when I get an agreement from the prosecution, and complete it, then that could show that I am "reformed" or whatever term they use.
I just need the hope of seeing my son again someday soon, and I really don't want it to be for an hour at some supervised center. That would be traumatic for me and him. He's only 2 years old, and he doesn't even deal with me or her leaving the house for work, etc. I can't imagine what it would be like after all this, and I really don't want to.
Thanks so much for reading about my situation, and any ideas or help you might have.
Relocation: Can the Mother of My Child Leave the State Without Notifying Me
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